In therapy, the real work begins once you leave my office. Together, we talk, achieve greater understanding, consider new ways of seeing and doing things, and develop new tools and strategies. But real change consists of putting those things into action, consistently over time. As a result, I often share resources with my clients that they may find helpful outside of our therapy sessions. The following are resources that I’ve compiled over time—some I’ve found through my own experience, and others have been shared with me by colleagues and mentors whose guidance and counsel I deeply trust and respect. I’d like to share these resources with you and hope you will find them as helpful and meaningful as I have.

Suggested Reading

The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living (Dr. Russ Harris)

Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Terry Real, LCSW)

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (Dr. Sue Johnson)

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (David Schnarch, Ph.D.)

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (Brené Brown, Ph.D., MSW)

Podcasts

Where Should We Begin? (Esther Perel): Relationships

Celebrate Calm (Kirk Martin): Parenting and kids

Raising Boys and Girls (Sissy Goff and David Thomas): Parenting and kids

Miscellaneous Resources

Demartini Values Assessment
This is a free, online values assessment I often encourage clients to complete as we talk about how personal values intersect with priorities and goals.

The Crucible 4 Points of Balance™ (David Schnarch, Ph.D.)
This is a great online resource about self-differentiation and holding onto ourselves in relationships.

The Anatomy of Trust (Brené Brown, Ph.D., MSW)